When the boat is sinking, there’s two places you can be. In a safe place, shouting orders to the people on the boat, or on the boat itself, helping to bail water out, coordinating evacuation, and being with the people who are in danger.
That’s an extreme example, but it’s relevant to our work.
Who do you listen to more? The Architect or PM that is a part of your team, succeeding or failing with you, and going through the problems your team is? Or the people outside of your team whose success depends upon you but who aren’t affected by failure the way your team is?
Which leader would rather have? The one that’s with you, on the boat? Or the one that’s safely on shore telling you what to do?